Introduction
The title of this article could make you smile, but the truth is that many people do not have either not much self-esteem, or in some cases none at all. So thought that an article on this very subject, could make some people sit up and take notice, but also act on the suggestion’s given. At the very least you will have a laugh at the thought that you do have a low self-esteem, what me! No way I can hear you say. There are times when we all doubt just how good we are.
It was my intention to write an article on self-improvement, but having done some deeper research have decided that this article is in fact an ideal primer for self-improvement, and as such is a starter to what can be a very complex subject.
The Beginning
The world that we live in today, can be classed as a tough environment, we have had Covid, now the cost of fuel, not to mention household bills all spiraling out of control. How do you maintain your self-esteem, be composed and stay calm in such a challenging world?
Here are some ideas that you can consider to be your starter on the journey to self-improvement.
The Dart Board
I would like you to pretend that you are a dartboard, with everyone and everything that surrounds being darts, at sometime or other. These darts will pull down and destroy your self-esteem, the sad fact is that you will not even know that they are doing it. You must not let them get the best of you or destroy you. Which darts should you then avoid?
Dart One: Working in a Negative Environment
You must be careful and aware that some people with whom you work, are just out for themselves, it is vital for them to get ahead and tread on anyone who gets in the way. Do not let them drag you into their world of self domination, it will ruin your self-esteem.
Dart Two: The Behaviour of Others
Your self-improvement hopes as well as your self-esteem will suffer if the people around you are any of the following:
Gossipmongers
Whiners
Snipers
Controllers
Patronisers
Brown Nosers
Back Stabbers
Naggers
Complainers
and People Walking Wounded.
I could, of course add a few more, but I am sure that you get the picture about to be aware of you consider your self-esteem and make a start on your journey to self-improvement.
Dart Three: Your Past Experience
When you fail at anything treat it rather as a mistake and learn from it. If you experience pain, do not let it become fear of that experience.
Dart Four: The Changing Locale
Changes challenge the way that we run our lives, it makes the way that we think alter. They can make life very awkward, even difficult, until we get used to them. Whilst change can cause stress, it can also help us to improve not only ourselves, but the way that we look at life. Changes are usually permanent, therefore we must learn to accept them.
Dart Five: The Theory of Determination
It is said that the way you are and the way that you behave are a product that is mixed product of your upbringing (or Physic traits) and your genetics, or inherited traits. To this must be added your surroundings, such as your partner, the friends that you have even the economy can all add to the mix. Remember that you have your own identity, you are you. If one of your parents has failed for whatever reason, it does not mean that you will. Try to learn from the experiences of others, this hopefully will ensure that you do make those same mistakes.
Dart Six:The Negative World
In building our self-esteem we have to learn to make the best out of even the worst situations. Do not allow yourself to be encompassed by the all the negatives that exist in the world.
Conclusion
You may think that some people are born leaders, or even positive thinkers, the answer of course is NO. If you learn to stay positive, when you decide to be positive, it is a step in the right direction. When you decide to build your self-esteem, and deciding how you intend to tackle your self-improvement, is not a talent, a birthright, or rule, but a choice.
When everyone around you is pulling you down, it is hard for you to stay tough, we are lucky that life gives us an array of options to deal with. we need to bear in mind that we can change three things, should we need.
Our Behaviour
Our Attitude and
Our Way of Thinking
If we learn to take responsibility for what we do, who we are and what we have, then this will lead to not only self-improvement but building your Self Esteem. So how do we start to do this, be happy, content and appreciate what you have.
Hope that you have enjoyed this article on Self Esteem, which will act as a lead to self-improvement.
It will be no surprise that the next article, which will be posted on Monday will be “Self Improvement”.
Stay healthy
Stuart
https://healthyyouonline.com
Self-esteem. Such an easy word but sometimes so hard to grasp it and make it your own. I have been on the lower end of things and I know how it is how to be extremely low on self-esteem. You think that you are helpless, you do not have the power to achieve anything. And once you are down this loop hole it is extremely difficult to get out of. It is doable but needs a lot of effort and a lot of help from other people to help you change the tides.
Hi,
Many thanks for your valued comments, which are mush appreciated.
Stuart
The article “Build Your Self Esteem” provides useful insights into the various factors that can affect an individual’s self-esteem, such as working in a negative environment, the behavior of others, previous experiences, and the negative world.
By recognizing and comprehending these factors, readers can begin to take steps toward developing a more positive self-image and resilience against external factors that may threaten their self-esteem.
However, I was curious about how one can develop resilience and maintain a positive self-image when constantly subjected to criticism, negativity, or discouragement from others.
Is there anything a person can do to protect themselves from the harmful effects of negative environments on their self-esteem?
Hi Miki,
Many thanks for your most valued comments.
In reply to your question regarding negativity which can be received by a person.
Several thoughts arise, try to rise above it, turn a deaf ear, in other words ignore it, regarding criticism, try to accept it at face value, examine what it is regarding, if it is accurate, take steps to address the problem, if it is not, then just say to yourself they are only jealous of me and my actions.
Hope that this helps in some way.
Regards
Stuart
Thank you for such an enjoyable and actionable read Stuart, I know many folks don’t like to focus on living a healthy life because it sounds boring to them but I know better than that!
Self-esteem is an underrated element of each of our personal health that is often overlooked in favor of the outward appearance of the thinks we typically focus on such as our weight, physical well-being and so forth.
You have done well not to ignore that here, as your readers will benefit from a more rounded philosophy that takes into account our innermost insecurities and motivations. It is very difficult to find stasis if we do not have a proper valuation of ourselves.
Hi Joseph,
Many thanks for your kind comments which are much appreciated.
Regards
Stuart